Post Election Advice: 5 Things to Help Cheer You Up (But Also It's Ok to Be Sad if You Want!)
Wednesday, 16 November 2016
I don't know about you, but the day after the election (one week ago today...was it all a dream?!), I had quite a few Facebook timeline and Twitter feed notices along the lines of "Ah well, let's shut up about this all now, it's over, I am sick of hearing about the "negativity", let's all "be positive" etc. And that's before we even got to the numerous articles and politicos advising us to "Give Trump a chance, we are all in this together now" blah de blah...and that's not even mentioning the Trump supporters who were all "Nah nah nah nah we won you lose suck it up!". So for anyone who didn't vote Trump, being told to feel "inclusive" with much of the Trump supporters felt...like a further slap in the face.
And forgive me, but I've yet to find a silver lining in Trump's immediate declaration of war on women's reproductive rights, Obamacare, Medicaid, and illegal immigrants.
Being "positive" right now is hard. And that's ok. Of course we must accept reality and do our best to fight the good fight (hey remember that ep. of Supernatural? Good moment).
Anyway, I have been trying to think of things to help me feel less doom and gloomy, in between some merited wallowing*, and for whatever reason I thought of this scene in The Jerk. This movie always makes me laugh, I grew up with a massive crush on Steve Martin's goofy characters, and I think it still holds up...though the crazed shooter at the end is maybe less funny now....ah f*ck it, if you can't laugh at The Jerk then what is the point of living?! "The new phonebook's here, the new phonebook's here!!!!" (yes I realize anyone born after 1990 will be like "Mmkay what now?"
And I know we're not allowed to like John Lewis anymore (I'm not even going into it) but by god, I am grasping to find the good stuff please don't take Buster away from me too!
3. Gilda, starring Rita Hayworth was on t.v. this week, I still haven't seen this whole film but I managed to catch some of it, and I was dazzled by Ms. Hayworth's wardrobe - the 30's and 40's are my favourite for vintage style, and this sheer long sleeved dress with power shoulders and sparkly accents entranced me. Also her dancing is so divine and free and almost improvised seeming, I don't know if I've seen many of her other films but I can see why she was so adored.
4. Watching videos of former bait dog but now earflapless pittopotomas (it makes sense if you look her up!) princess Calista the Pitbull always reminds me that there is endless good in the world even in the face of evil.
I double dog dare you not to find her adorable videos cheer you up!
5. Music. I am trying to put together another Spotify playlist of songs that are nothing but pure joy/make me want to dance (I will share it if anyone is interested, my last experiment in social mix taping was SUCH a success! ;-0).
Of course part of me also wants to make a "Dark Night of the Soul" election blues mix, but that's ok too! It's all about yin and yang in life, something I feel for whatever reason the internet/blogosphere's/Instagram's endless "Be positive, chin up Mary Poppins" mentality can negate, which I for one don't think is healthy. Of course seek out things to feel better if you are upset for political or any other reasons, but also, you know, allow yourself to feel what you need to feel and express it, that's ok too. It feels very basic to say but I feel like I'm always up against this for some reason. Anyway, don't forget to try to seek some joy, when you are up to it, because it does help, even gloomy old me!
* I appreciate I have not one iota of the right of people who live in America to wallow, but it is still my homeland and I did vote with hope in my heart so...
p.s. I was already in mind to write something along the lines of this post (more on the music side, but anyway this is what came out) when Janet over at Someone Somewhere wrote her lovely 10 Things To Be Thankful For post - so do check out her post, we need to hold on to all of the good things right now! :-)